As an energy worker, spiritual intuitive, and hypnotherapist, I have had the opportunity to connect with a lot of beautiful women (and a couple of openminded beautiful men). I’ve done thousands of readings and hundreds of hypnotherapy sessions so I know a thing or three about human behavior, guidance, and the questions and challenges that commonly arise when we are working on any type of self-improvement or making lasting change.
A while back I was asked me to write a blog about intuition or whatever I intuitively felt drawn to share, I was ecstatic. That was six months ago.
Which brings me to the topic of the day: Resistance.
Resistance is a reactive response to fear. When resistance shows up, it’s the subconscious saying, “let’s stay the same!” It’s the job of our subconscious mind to keep us safe so when life is familiar, predictable, just like yesterday, it thinks it’s doing it’s job because same equals safe.
Then what are we supposed to do when we find ourselves up against resistance? It’s true what they say, resistance is futile — especially when it comes to resisting resistance!
There are many ways to move through your own resistance. The biggest challenge is identifying the resistance in the first place. Resistance is usually part of our story that we unconsciously keep alive through daily habits and patterns of behavior. It’s often hiding in plain sight!
Here are 5 easy steps to identify and move through your resistance.
1. Awareness is always the first step to making any kind of changes so we must identify the resistance. Resistance will show up as procrastination, diversion, avoidance, created drama or even physical discomfort. Let it be the red flag, not the stop sign.
2. Acknowledge it with compassion. Get real with the voice inside your head that tries to steer you in the opposite direction of what you want to accomplish.
3. Ask that voice what it wants you to hear. Resistance isn’t there to stop you from creating your experience, it’s there to reveal your fear so you can get through it. Once it’s out in the open, you can use it to help you identify where to (or where not to) point your inner compass.
4. Listen so you can uncover the truth. When we are in the resistance we are (consciously or unconsciously) choosing to reside on the “other side of the truth” the side that is the conflict or the lie. By listening deeply the truth becomes apparent and then the discomfort will dissipate.
5. Drop your judgements so you can reframe your perspective. The resistance popped up so you can see where you need to grow. When we feel a sense of distress, it is because our soul knows it’s being denied. When you are in the truth or on the right path or in the flow — however you like to define this — everything feels clear. The path seems obvious and you are able to let go and get things done!
When it came to writing this post, I had to consciously make a decision to let go of my resistance around writing it. I had to do this repeatedly. Each time I started (or even thought about starting), and resistance was triggered, I chose to become more acquainted with it. The first time, my insecurities about not being a professional writer came up. My first reaction was to listen to the voices that (lied and) told me to quit so up came the block. I became more familiar with what I was afraid of, through my awareness and acknowledged the truth was my subconscious was attempting to protect me from criticism. Once I was able to reframe the resistance by understanding it’s just an old thought pattern, I was able to work with the energy of it to fuel my motivation to write. It turns out that my truth is that I have a lot of experience when it comes to resistance, and this story is proof that you can make resistance work for you.